Product Description

Thought-provoking questions that challenge and inspire couples to build a lasting, intimate relationship.

When Susan Piver's husband, Duncan, proposed, her first impulse was to break up with him. "How does one enter into marriage knowing that almost half of all couples these days get divorced?" she thought in a panic. "Suppose he wants to live somewhere I hate? What if I wish we had ten times more money than he wishes for, or he wants to spend more time with his family than I do?"

One by one, she and Duncan answered these questions and many more, alternately delighted, appalled, infuriated, and mystified by the other's responses. In exploring each area of uncertainty, Piver learned something about her husband-to-be, herself, and their relationship. Focusing on key areas of married life, such as home, money, work, sex, community and friends, family, and spirituality, her list of questions became the basis for this book.

The Hard Questions should be required reading for engaged couples, newlyweds, and those in long-term relationships. It is a simple yet profound tool that will challenge and inspire couples to gain a deeper understanding of each other and build a lasting, intimate relationship.

"This book of hard questions and exercises for couples is innovative and exciting." --Andrew Weil, M.D.

"Susan Piver is a deeply intuitive and innovative thinker. She has both tenderness and acuity regarding what concerns us. I could not recommend her more highly." --Julia Cameron

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #266114 in Books
• Published on: 2004-01-06
• Released on: 2004-01-06
• Original language: English
• Binding: Hardcover
• 176 pages

About the Author
Susan Piver owns Padma Projects, a company that produces CD/Books for people interested in spirituality and health. She has worked with authors Thomas Moore, Andrew Weil and Celia Straus.

Customer Reviews

Wasn't what I expected
I saw this book on Oprah and thought that maybe it would give me ideas of what to ask my Fiance before we got married. This book is more for people who had a short engagement and are still getting to know one another. The questions are pretty childish and a lot of them my Fiance and I have already talked about. The questions basically ask about your feelings about children, your job, house, etc..
I basically wasted my money so don't waste yours if you and your boyfriend/Fiance/Husband have been together for a long time. It doesn't really help you figure out anything new.

Need More Questions
I found that this book was lacking in dozens if not hundreds of essential questions that should be asked before couples make a lifetime commitment. Most of the questions were good but I had to look elsewhere to find the questions that I knew were lacking.

Definitely check out 1000 Questions for Couples.

Essential?
When you get questions like "What if one of us stopped working?" and "Do you want kids?" then it is far from "Hard hitting" or "Essential". It takes Susan 128 pages to give a list of 100 questions that could be yanked out of any given teen magazine on any given day of the week. Maybe if I was 12.. then I would have admired the "hard hitting" questions. However.. now.. I'll ask all these questions before I'm 2 months into a relationship, let alone getting married! If your compass is awry and you're petrified of talking candidly with your spouse.. this book is for you! If not.. well.. go spend the money on dinner, and you'll actually have a better discussion!