Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #1246768 in Books
• Published on: 1999-12
• Original language: English
• Binding: Paperback
• 392 pages

From the Publisher
Black women can bypass the shortage of Black men by dating White men. This book shows how to clear out your old social conditioning and inhibitions about interracial relationships, tune out expectations that you date only Blacks and clarify your reasons for romantic and sexual attraction to White men. It shows you where and how to meet White men, how to make yourself more interracially approachable and gives guidelines for screening emotionally available White males into your social life. Women often see men as foreign psychological territory, and racial differences accentuate this misperception. This book clears away the misconceptions all too many Black women have about White men and explains what goes on in the minds of White men who seek out and date Black women.

A broad spectrum of taboos and social pressures block Black women from getting into interracial relationships. This book explains the psychosexual origins of the various forms of social opposition to those wearing "the scarlet letter of interracial dating," from the stares interracial couples encounter almost everywhere they go, to why parents work so hard at breaking up the interracial relationships of their offspring to why certain types of disturbed individuals become enraged at the sight of total strangers who happen to be in interracial relationships. This book shows how to better understand, cope with, and tune out the various social pressures and initiate unembarrassed interracial relationships.

Customer Reviews

interesting book
As a white man,I was delighted to find that from reading this book and reviews on it that there are many black women that are interested in white men.This is good news for me because i`ve always found black women attractive and wanted to date them.Personally,I see nothing wrong with dating or marrying outside ones own race.I see beauty in women of all races,so why should I limit myself to only white women just because I`m white? I know some people that see whites as the enemy may resent interracial dating or consider it blasphemy,but I just dont see it that way.

Way Out of Line!
This book makes several problematic arguments that incorporate traditional racist perceptions of black women. On the other hand, white men are portrayed as the party open for an interracial relationship meanwhile it is the white men who need to get rid of they sick/ignorant/racist/sexist images of black women. Surprisingly, this book orders black women to make themselves more approachable to interracial dating. In addition to making racist arguments, it breaks the first rule in a genuine relationship that couples are supposed to like each other for who they really are. The comparisons made between black men and white men are disgustingly racist and intentional. You do not need to make black men seem all of that to make white men appealing. There is good white men and good black men and an intelligent black woman (educated or not) is capable of making that distinction between race and personality. I think this book was written by someone who is insecure of his own capability as a white man and wants to change the direction of the winds of positive integration/change. Lets not forget that all of the traditional racist images of black women in main stream America were initiated by the uninformed white men and lets not let the same party lead us to a similar direction again. I am an educated black woman who has been with a white man and did not have to change single part of me to do that. Because this time black women have the authoritarian position.

Low rating because....
I am a woman who chats frequently in a chatroom on Yahoo! for black women and white men. About once a month, someone comes into this room, claiming to be the author of this book. He comes into the chatroom, is very disrespectful of the people in it, and pushing his book. If this person is indeed the person who wrote the book, I would never read anything he's written. If not, the author of this book should be very upset that he's being represented in such a negative and derrogatory manner.