Product Description

My Wedding Dress explores the wedding outfit as a touchstone garment in women’s lives. In the tradition of Dropped Threads, this collection offers twenty-six true stories from well-known writers and fresh new literary voices. These are intimate stories about relationships; not just those between men and women, but between women and their mothers, friends and children. And, of course, with their wedding attire – a relationship that is sometimes simple, sometimes complex, but always fascinating in what it tells us about individual lives and aspirations.

Some of the tales are humorous – the bride whose skin is dyed fuchsia on her wedding night or the woman whose shopping-savvy aunt takes her to New York’s garment district. Some are romantic – the woman who puts on her dress eight years after her wedding only to be caught by her husband when he comes home early from work or the quickie immigration wedding that turned into the real thing. Some are devastating – the bride who loses her mother to illness only days before her wedding or the woman whose mother tells of being kidnapped by her future husband. And some are revealing – the woman who wears her first wedding dress for her initiation ceremony into a convent and her second to marry her beloved; the dress that waited patiently in a shop window and then hidden in a box on a closet shelf; the same-sex wedding at age eighty; the thrift shop wedding dress that gets used for everything but a wedding. All are honest, personal and profoundly moving.

As Anne Laurel Carter explains in her introduction, the pieces “fell easily” into four categories, so that’s how the book is organized. “Something Old” looks at how traditions like honouring one’s ancestors affected wedding dress choices, from a grandmother’s gift to a father’s old leather jacket, but also at how such traditions can play a role in ways you least expect. The pieces in “Something New” focus on dreams for the future, whether that means breaking away from the expectations of one’s family or choosing/creating a wedding dress (and a future) on your own. In “Something Borrowed,” writers tell of all the reasons behind borrowing (or trying to borrow!) dresses, for whatever reason, and “Something Blue . . . Or Peach . . . Or Striped . . . Or Floral . . .” looks at exactly that–the non-traditional choices women have made, and why.

These stories re-create the range of emotions that are invested in dresses and wedding days: confidence, optimism, hesitation, fear, fury and hope. When you work away at the seams, even the simplest of wedding outfits reveals all manner of memories and meanings. And whether you’ve been married or not, the stories in My Wedding Dress will have you looking back with new eyes on your own life, and exploring what the phrase “my wedding dress” means to you.


Contributors to My Wedding Dress:

Joanne Arnott
Anita Rau Badami
Adwoa Badoe
Sandra Campbell
Lorna Crozier
Rebecca Cunningham
Laurie Elmquist
Alisa Gordaneer
Jessica Ruth Harris
Kathleen Boyle Hatcher
Rosemary Hood
Michele Landsberg
Mary T. Malone
Jenny Manzer
Ami McKay
Jane Munro
Margaret Goudie Parsons
Gianna Patriarca
Elyse Pomeranz
Edeet Ravel
Kerri Sakamoto
Ilana Stanger-Ross
Darla Tenold
Jamie Zeppa

Foreword by
Stevie Cameron

Afterword by
Amy Cameron

Edited by
and with contributions from
Susan Whelehan
and
Anne Laurel Carter

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #222676 in Books
• Published on: 2007-01-02
• Released on: 2007-01-02
• Original language: English
• Binding: Paperback
• 352 pages

Books in Canada
In an interview with Shelagh Rogers on CBC radio’s Sounds Like Canada on February 14, 2007, Lorna Crozier commented about the anthology My Wedding Dress: “This book should be part of every wedding store and should be given every bride when they come in . . . it might provide a cautionary note to some of the pink frothy bliss that surrounds them.”
Crozier, who is a well-known Canadian poet and a contributor to the anthology, said this with a laugh, but her point is well made in this outstanding anthology of 26 stories or “true life tales.” They are written by women who are mature in outlook. There are some prominent writers: Anita Rau Badami, Michelle Landsberg, Edeet Ravel, Stevie Cameron, and Kerri Sakamoto. Other writers are not professional but have benefited from the editorial savvy of Susan Whelehan and Anne Laurel Carter.
In fact, the quality of each writer’s expression is unique, which is a reflection of their sometimes shocking honesty. Most of the stories are accompanied by a black and white photograph from the contributor’s album and this adds to the intimacy of such sharing. A minor criticism: it would have been more effective to place the photos at the beginning, rather than at the end of each story, to avoid endless flipping of the pages for a look at the dress described.
My Wedding Dress focuses on the symbolism of this garment. As we learn in the introduction, which is dotted with trivia, it was Queen Victoria who started the white wedding dress “craze”. The traditional white dress is rarely the first choice for these contributors. Some even had two different dresses or outfits. For example, in “Green Silk and Black Leather: the Official Story”, Alisa Gordaneer explains in her vivacious, tongue-in-cheek style how she ended up wearing her father’s black leather jacket over a green day dress to her “surreal wedding” in the Detroit City Hall, one among 20 brides being married that day in a sweltering room. A few weeks earlier, Alisa had worn her mother’s creamy satin dress at her “real” wedding to Marc, an American, in her hometown of Victoria, B.C. The ceremony didn’t include marriage vows. The couple had been warned by the American consulate that they had to be officially married in the United States.
In “Two Suits and A Closet”, the late Rosemary Hood wrote that she wore a tweed jacket and matching skirt for her 1946 wedding to her first cousin, Duncan- fourteen years her senior-who wore his “handsome naval uniform.” After nearly two decades together, and a son and a daughter, the couple broke up.
Rosemary was in love with a woman, Kay, and they lived together for 34 years. In 2004, now in their eighties, they agreed to get a license to be married in Toronto where they lived. This time Rosemary chose to wear another suit, a cream pantsuit with red pinstripes. She concluded her piece in her matter-of-fact tone, summarising some of the rich insights found in this anthology: “Now as I gaze at the photos from both weddings, the difference in apparel and mood hits me for the first time: formal and stiff in the first wedding; relaxed and joyous in the second. It’s very true that wedding garb reveals the emotions hidden deep within the ritual.”
Romance, or the conventional teary eyes that are expected of brides is rare here, except perhaps tears of sorrow as in Jenny Manzer’s “The Wedding Promise”. On the day she was married, Jenny was mourning the loss of her mother, who had died of cancer at sixty-six years of age, a few days before. Jenny’s mother had made her promise months earlier that she would marry her fiancé, David, whatever happened.
From her hospital bed, Jenny’s mother had helped her plan the celebration, which would take place at the McMichael Art Gallery in Kleinburg, Ontario. Seeing how much joy her mother derived from using her diminishing strength to address a hundred invitations, Jenny couldn’t think of not going ahead with the wedding. In one rushed hour, her time short with all the necessary arrangements, Jenny had found the perfect wedding dress in a boutique, and her father had taken photos to show her mother in the hospital.
These stories might be challenging to read since the wedding dresses can stir memories that are ambivalent, not always joyful. But sometimes there is happiness. In “No Shoes Required”, Ami Mckay, author of the recently published novel The Birth House, writes how each time she wears her hand-dyed green embroidered dress bought in A Star of India boutique, the scent of incense and curry wafts from it, and she is transported back to the red cliffs that overlook the Bay of Fundy, where she stood barefoot to wed “an amazing man who knew the poetry of my heart.”
My Wedding Dress is an important addition to women’s literature, a powerful and stimulating anthology that reflects the temper of our times in which women are freed from the “pink froth” of superficiality that is found in wedding magazines, to reveal in their own brilliant words, the bittersweet mélange that is the life-altering event of a marriage.
Anne Cimon (Books in Canada)

Review
ADVANCE PRAISE

"The concept of women writing about their wedding dresses is enchanting, and so is this book. I sat right down and read it cover to cover. Then I had an urgent desire to write about my wedding dress. A gray flannel suit, since you asked. Wartime."
–June Callwood

"A wedding dress is a perfect icon for an anthology for it shows us that the women's movement can come and go, our image of a housewife or marriage may change dramatically, but each generation frets over her wedding dress as did her mother and grandmother. It is the perfect symbol of hope. If you want to cut through the latest ideology and get to the heart of what beats under the tulle read this great book. I swear if I landed here from another planet nothing would tell me more about the female psyche or the role that marriage plays in their psyche than reading My Wedding Dress."
–Catherine Gildiner

"Speaking as someone who got married in a purple suit, and then reluctantly, I can only say that the editors of this wonderful collection got it right. Their essayists have done a Martin Luther and nailed their white, beaded, silk-draped souls to the church door. Wedding dresses are the embodiment of purest happiness and deepest trauma. Some of the garments are so soaked in irony it’s a wonder the poor woman is able to stand upright. I read each story sometimes laughing and sometimes utterly aghast. A toast to the editors and their tribe of brides."
–Heather Mallick

“My Wedding Dress is not just a book for brides. It is a thoughtful meditation on every aspect of the marriage ritual — tears, taffeta and all.”
–Leah McLaren

About the Author
Both Anne Laurel Carter and Susan Whelehan are experienced authors and educators, and seeing this project come to fruition has been a thrill for them both. The genesis of the idea for My Wedding Dress occurred six years ago at Whelehan’s home, where a group of friends, including Carter, had gathered for an afternoon of writing. The project was this: topics would be called out by different women, and everyone would write on each topic for fifteen to twenty minutes without stopping. Once the time was up, they would all read their pieces aloud to the group. As Whelehan writes in her introduction, the insight and emotions that pour out during activities like this are phenomenal: “There is a place where you go when you put pen to paper and write without pausing… It is not the place you would go if you were to call out a subject and then have a conversation. Oh no. Some say the truths of the heart flow down the arm and out the pen.”

On one particular evening the topic was “your wedding dress,” and all of the writers were surprised at the diversity and intensity of the pieces. The subject was so well-received that Whelehan later used it with another group of women, none of whom were used to writing, and it was a hit again. Right away she knew it would be a great idea for a book, but left it at that. Then, a couple of years later, Anne Carter called, full of memories of that night of writing and enthusiasm for the project of this anthology. So they set about making it a reality: drawing up lists of potential contributors, reading the many pieces sent in by women across the country, making difficult choices about what to include, and finally pulling the great variety of voices together into this anthology.

My Wedding Dress is the first of this sort of project for both of its editors, although both have made a career of the writing life. Anne Laurel Carter’s novel Last Chance Bay won the CLA Best Book of the Year Award while Under a Prairie Sky won the Mr. Christie Award for the Best Picture Book in Canada. The author of fourteen books, she has also been nominated for OLA awards. She lives in Toronto with her husband and four teens. Susan Whelehan works mornings teaching six- and seven-year-old children how to read so that they will some day enjoy the books she writes in the afternoons. She has written sixteen picture books for young readers, poetry for young and old, and co-authored Meditating Mamas: A Spiritual Resource for New Mothers with Rebecca Cunningham. She is currently writing for the award-winning children’s television show The Big Comfy Couch. Her husband and two sons help her with her garden in Toronto. Her wedding earrings still fit.