Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #165318 in Books
• Published on: 1994-10-01
• Original language: English
• Binding: Paperback
• 336 pages

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Based on national studies of more than one thousand couples, a three-part program guarantees that each partner's feelings be expressed and understood, helps couples identify factors and underlying principles that create successful marriages, and guides them to positive change. Reprint.

Customer Reviews

A Must-Read for all
Simple solutions based on actual research. Amazing! Gives insight into communication between any two people regardless of their relationship. (The rules of politeness are ones we should all use more often with everyone.) Contains a lot of information in just a few hundred pages, so you get your money's worth.

Purchase if you want to do any of the following:
(1) assess your relationship and evaluate your happiness
(2) determine where you may be going wrong in your relationship and why
(3) find useful ways to improve happiness, communication and intimacy in your relationship.

For more high-yield information about relationships and improving them I also recommend Make Up, Don't Break Up by Bonnie Eaker Weil and How One of You Can Bring The Two of You Together by Susan Page

It has changed me!
My husband and I have never been very good communicators. I get frustrated because he is the type of person to hold things in and although I am not as bad, I have a tendency to do this as well. But once there is a serious issue on the table I am ready to talk. By then he is totally closed off. This makes me angry and frustrated. This book has really helped me with my anger and frustration and has shown me better ways to deal with issues. I highly recommend it!

What I Didn't Learn In College
Out of desperation, I pulled this book out of my closet when my boyfriend and I started arguing uncontrollably at the two-year mark of our relationship. When I bought this book, it was for a course I took in Psychology at the Catholic University of America, not surprisingly. Dr. Notarius is a professor there. At the time, I was busy sailing through college without reading most of the required reading, and I didn't bother to read this book either. I am so sorry that I didn't! It has been such a big help to us, not only in communication but also in finding out what is motiving our relationship anger. It has been a real eye-opener and a great tool we have used to "stop the fighting!" as we call it. We know our relationship is heading towards marriage, and we both want to work this out now so we know we can have a happy future together later. While this book is focused mainly on married couples, it applies to all other couples as well - as long as they are committed to each other. So don't be scared off by the title!