Product Description

The second book in this important series discusses what to do when nasty men try to use guilt, manipulation, and "reason" to get their way, and differentiates truly nasty behavior from everyday frustrations that arise between men and women. In Nasty Men, Carter defines several "nasty types," including:

• The verbal batterer--who uses intimate secrets as ammunition to attack the self-esteem of others
• The Don Juan--whose charming attentiveness conceals a chronically deceitful personality
• The liar--who says one thing in front of loved ones but something else behind their backs
• The Cro-Magnon man--whose attitude turns relationships into battlegrounds

Everyone knows a person who has been hurt, betrayed, or degraded by nasty individuals or has experienced it themselves. In three books, Jay Carter, Psy. D., shows readers how to stop this cycle of overt and covert abuse, without resorting to nasty tactics. Now for the first time, this series is released together to cover all areas of dealing with difficult people. With straight-talking advice, real-life anecdotes, and psychology that makes sense, Carter explains how to handle and stop painful behavior that harms both the perpetrator and the victim.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #1604751 in Books
• Published on: 2003-05-05
• Original language: English
• Binding: Paperback
• 144 pages

Ingram
A psychologist combines the straight-talking advice that's become his hallmark with real-life anecdotes to show how to put a stop once and for all to the cycle of overt and covert abuse from a cast of nasty characters. Delivers surefire methods to neutralize destructive behavior. 15 line drawings.

From the Back Cover

Surefire methods to neutralize the nasty men in your life

Is there a nasty man in your life? Someone who always puts you down, chipping away at your self-esteem? He could be your husband, father, brother, or boss. Whoever he is, he's can be King of the Jerks, someone you try your best to avoid. You can't turn a frog into a prince, but with the straight-talking advice in this guide, you might just find the beauty in your beast.

Based on decades of practice and observation, author, psychologist, and motivational speaker Jay Carter, Psy.D., provides no-nonsense insights into the behavior of the beastliest men, offering proven techniques for coping with every jerk in your life. As the author outlines key personality types--from the deceitfully seductive Don Juan to the unevolved Cro-Magnon Man--you'll learn how to:

• Understand the behavior of your favorite jerk
• Detect when he's lying to you
• Deflect criticism and not take it personally
• Put a stop once and for all to the cycle of abuse
• Confront verbal bullies with rational comebacks
• Get your guy off the couch and into the relationship
• Depend on yourself for your self-esteem
• Gain the confidence you need to stand up to the nasty men in your life

About the Author

Jay Carter, Psy.D., DAPBS, is a psychologist who has treated couples and women for decades. The bestselling author of Nasty Men and Nasty Women, and a sought-after motivational speaker, Dr. Carter has made numerous appearances both nationally and internationally. He has also been a guest on "Larry King Live" and "The Montel Williams Show."

Customer Reviews

Not A Book I'll Be Sharing With My Clients
Jay does a good job of telling women what he would do if he were an abused woman, but he is neither abused nor a woman. He writes with the power and authority that men naturally have in this society. If all women were to follow his advise and become more assertive with their battering men, some would find their situations improve, some would see no change, and some would end up dead.

Jay belittles abused women when he writes, "The amazing thing is that no matter what you tell them, what you do, or what fifty million other people tell them, some women just won't leave. Somehow, the relationship is like a drug for these women." This statement demonstrates a remarkable lack of empathy and adds another voice of critism that abused women get from innocently ignorant people all the time.

Perhaps a good book for some, but not one I will be passing out to the abused women who are my clients.

Excellent!
Very good and thought provoking analysis of abusive relationships. The author seems to have a good understanding of the fact that abuse does not require physical damage. Although he starts out with an offensive reference to the abuser who "may be hurting you big time (having and affair) or just a little (putting you down)...", later in the book he seems to get it that just "putting you down" can be the most insideous and damaging kind of abuse. I highly recommend the book for both men and women. Even though most of the references to the abuser are in the male gender, the author acknowledges that abusers ("nasty people") can be of either gender.

This Book Changed My Life
I was in an abusive love relationship for twelve years, that finally ended when my husband walked out on myself and my 6 month old baby (I had quit my job, and he decided I was no longer financially useful for him).
I really considered taking this person back when he found out he couldn't keep all our assets in the divorce, and then I read this book. This is him! You won't believe how well this book describes your nasty man. The book is very clear that THIS PERSON WON'T CHANGE. It was these words that gave me the courage not to take him back.

I highly reccomend this book - I can't say enough good things about it.